Ever lock eyes mid-thrust and feel like you just accidentally summoned a demon? It’s intense. Way too intense for a Tuesday night. We put so much pressure on the “intimate gaze,” but let’s be real—sometimes your brain just wants to check out and watch the hockey game.
Here’s the thing about where your eyes go when things get heavy: it doesn’t actually matter as much as you think it does.
Pretty Much
- The TV is basically a third partner
Look, if you’ve got a television in the bedroom, it’s going to catch your eye. Maybe you’re catching a hockey game or rewatching The X-Files while getting busy. It happens. Honestly, if you can find a rhythm where you’re both enjoying the show and each other, that’s just next-level multitasking. Just be careful—a sudden wraparound goal or a particularly spicy scene might end the night a little faster than you planned.
Admire the view (even if it’s your own) There is absolutely nothing wrong with appreciating the scenery. Whether it’s your partner’s assets or your own bouncing titties, take a look. It’s not vain; it’s just admiring the work. If you catch your partner checking themselves out in the mirror during the act, don’t judge them. Join in. It’s a bonding moment to acknowledge that, yeah, things look pretty good from this angle.
The abyss stares back
If you’re in the doggy style camp, you know the rules. You’re looking at the action. And if you gaze long enough into the abyss, well, the abyss is going to gaze back into you. It’s custom. It’s expected. Just embrace the view and keep moving forward.
- Sometimes you just gotta close your eyes Eye contact isn’t for everyone. For some folks, locking pupils feels like a curse on their soul. If you’re too shy to open your eyes or you’d rather stare through the ceiling and think of England, that is totally valid. You do you. If closing your eyes helps you get out of your head and into the moment, shut them tight.
- Sex is a workout, not a social event We need to talk about how physically demanding sex actually is. It’s a full-body workout that requires a specific headspace to get to the finish line. That doesn’t always leave room for constant, deep emotional engagement. You can love your partner deeply and still need to zone out to handle the cardio. Unless they’re specifically asking for more eye contact, don’t stress about spacing out. You’re just focusing on the job at hand.
Peace
Stop overthinking the eye contact game. If you’re both safe, having fun, and getting where you need to go, it doesn’t matter if you’re staring into their soul or watching a rerun. Sex is supposed to be fun, not a performance review. Keep the vibes good and your eyes wherever they feel natural.